The Other F Word

Remember that time when the person who absolutely gutted you—broke your trust, crossed a line, maybe even shattered your heart—came back to you on bended knee?

Apologzing. Owning it. Taking full accountability.

No excuses, no minimizing, no turning tables.

Just heartfelt remorse and a deep desire to make things right?

Yeah… me neither.

That moment we hope for? It rarely comes.

And so we sit with the ache. We replay conversations. We overanalyze texts. We wonder if we were too much or not enough. We try to make sense of behavior that never will.

And we wait—consciously or not—for some version of “closure" so we can finally move on.

But here’s what I eventually learned:

Closure isn’t something we wait for.

It’s something we give ourselves.

Forgiveness isn’t about saying what happened was okay.

It’s about saying, “I’m not going to let this hurt keep living in me.”

We forgive not because they deserve it, but because we do.

Because anger, bitterness, resentment—they’re heavy.

They fester in our thoughts. They weigh on our hearts. They settle in our bodies in ways we don’t always realize—until we finally let them go.

And yet… forgiveness can feel impossible.

Even when we want to let go, we often don’t know how.

So... what do we do?

What happens when we understand the why—but we’re still stuck on the how?

Write the unsent letter. Say everything. Get it ALL out. What they did. How it made you feel. What you needed and didn’t get. This letter is not for them—it's for your release. Then burn it. Shred it. Do whatever feels symbolic of letting it out of your system.

Then use my Guided Forgiveness Meditation "Healing After Hurt". It’s part of my Mindful Moments: Five Minute Fix series, and I created it especially for this.

Forgiveness doesn’t typically happen in one big moment. We extract insight, gain wisdom and let go in steps and layers.

But begin the process of forgiving—not to let them off the hook, but to set yourself free.

Because this is your life.

And your time is now.