Assumptions: The Mind’s Favorite Drama Series

Have you ever been texting with someone and suddenly you get a reply that hits you like a brick?

Whoa. That’s harsh.

Instantly, your mind takes off running: What did I do? Why are they upset? What's going on??

Before you know it, you’re knee-deep in an imaginary argument that only exists in your head. Your adrenaline’s pumping, shoulders tense, stomach in knots.

Then later, you find out… they weren’t mad at all.

Nope. They were just busy and sent a quick reply.

No attitude. No hidden meaning. Just a text.

Classic case of assumptions at work.

Our mind is a master storyteller - it loves filling in the blanks, especially when it doesn’t have all the facts.

We tell ourselves little stories to feel more in control, because, well… control feels safe.

But let’s be honest, those stories usually stir up stress, anxiety, and a whole lot of unnecessary drama.

It’s like our brain has its own streaming platform, and Assumptions is the hit series that’s been running for years - complete with plot twists, cliffhangers, and emotional turmoil.

Think about it.

How many times have we assumed someone should just know what we want?

We expect our partner or friend to read our mind, and when they don’t, we feel disappointed, frustrated, or hurt.

At work, we might assume a coworker left us out of a meeting because they don’t value our input, when in truth, they just forgot or thought we were too busy.

In society, we assume we know everything about entire groups of people.

And with ourselves, we assume we’re not ready, that we don’t have what it takes, or that something good isn’t meant for us - stories often rooted in old fears, outdated beliefs or past experiences.

We create these stories because our brain craves certainty.

When we don’t understand something, our mind jumps in to fill the space.

Even if the story isn’t true, it gives us the illusion of understanding - and that feels more comfortable than sitting in the unknown.

But that illusion costs us.

It builds walls where connection could be.

It breeds tension, resentment, and worry over things that never even happened.

Instead of guessing what someone meant, we can simply say, “Hey, when you said that, what did you mean?”

Instead of expecting others to read our minds, we can express what we actually want or need.

It’s wild how much peace comes from direct, honest communication.

And sometimes, the best thing we can do is stay open - to know that we don’t know, and to be okay with that.

When we stop making assumptions, we create space for understanding, compassion, and truth.

We free ourselves from unnecessary pain and open the door to deeper connection - with others and with ourselves.

So next time your mind starts writing a new episode of Assumptions: The Drama Series, take a breath.

Ask. Communicate. Stay curious.

🎧 If you’re ready to release some of those old stories your mind loves to create, check out my mindful moments guided meditation: Releasing Assumptions: A Meditation for Peace and Clarity.

Because life feels a whole lot lighter when we stop assuming. ✨